Anytime someone else gives us an outside “should”, that sets up an immediate oppositional stance in our minds (aka, “Fuck you, I’m eating the cookies.”)ĥ. If you don’t actually care about losing weight, or quitting smoking, or creating a six figure business, but your spouse has said they want you to…well, guess what, you’re not actually going to follow through on it. Those NYR’s might be someone else’s idea of what you “should” be doing. This might take the form of procrastination, low energy, or just “another day went by and nothing happened…”.Ĥ. If you set yourself an impossible goal (notice SMART includes the word “achievable”), and your mind doesn’t actually believe you can do it, then you will start to subconsciously self-sabotage in some way.
Again, if you say something like “make more money”, what actions are you going to take to make that happen?ģ.
Something like “eat a salad for lunch 3 x per week” is measurable, achievable, etc.Ģ. You guys have probably already heard of SMART goals, so I won’t dive in too much here, but something like “get healthy” is never, ever going to get you through to next December. Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time-bound. Some other reasons why it’s so hard to keep those NYR’s?ġ. We only have limited amounts of willpower, and if you are also using your willpower to refrain from the cookies, keep your cool with the kids, and not freak out in traffic…then you’re going to have even less left over to willpower your way through your new resolutions. They never work if you are trying to force them through sheer willpower. I’m going to show you some awesome ways to get what you truly want this year.īut first…a note about why NYR’s (New Year’s Resolutions) don’t work. New Year’s resolutions don’t work for most people and 2. I don’t want any of us to feel guilty for that, though, because: 1. And by that I mean that most of us have given up on them, whatever they were, by mid January. Here’s the thing: New Year’s Resolutions almost never, ever work out. What if you set your goals, intentions, and New Year’s Resolutions…and still, nothing changes?
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